Archive | October, 2012

New Ways To Get The Mission(ary) Accomplished: Tips To Spice Up This Classic Position

22 Oct

Oh the missionary position. Typically described as “man-on-top and woman-on-bottom, this classic go to configuration is one that many couples have engaged in over the years. As legend has it, this position found its name from Christian missionaries because they believed this position to be the right, and only way, to have sexual intercourse. Other cultures, religions, and groups, have their own name for this position as well.

The missionary position is prized for its level of intimacy because of how close you can be with your partner. It lends itself to be great for eye contact, kissing, and is fairly low impact. But if you’ve grown tired of the standard missionary, try out one of these variations.

A Tight Squeeze

Ladies once your partner is inside, both of you keep your legs together. Move your pelvis so it is slightly below his and have him give you deep thrusts and rock against your mons pubis. The increased tightness from your legs being together will feel great to him, and because you are positioned slightly below his pelvis, the base of his penis should rub against your clitoris.

One Flight Up

While on your back, bring your knees to your chest and have your partner enter you. Move your calves to rest onto his shoulders and have him brace himself with his hands by your side. This position is great for your man to run the show and leaves you open for deliciously deep penetration. Fun fact for this position: it is awesome for anal too!

Give Me Props

Ladies grab some pillows and prop them under your butt. Have your partner enter you and hold himself above you (think upward-facing dog) and give you slow deep circular thrusting motions. This position is great for him because he gets greater access to you and the angle at which your pelvis is at is perfect for G-spot stimulation.

Erotic Embrace

Ladies this position plays out like standard missionary except you wrap your arms and legs around your partner. This position is great because it allows you to get maximum skin on skin contact with your partner and you are able to get great eye contact. You are able to easily give kisses, whisper sweet nothings, and caress your partners face. A rocking motion rather than thrusting can heighten the level of intimacy as well.

Seeing Stars

Begin having missionary style sex and as you approach climax, slide yourself to where your upper half is hanging off the edge of the bed. By now the blood should be rushing to your head and as you climax, you should experience an extraordinary sensation throughout your entire body. Don’t stay in this position too long because you may literally be seeing stars and pass out!

Try these exciting positions out and add the ones you like to your sex position repertoire! Missionary doesn’t have to be boring, so keep exploring and when it comes to sex, everything is OK here.

The New Pre-Gaming: Should You Masturbate Before A Date?

4 Oct

Who doesn’t get a little nervous before a first date? Hands up please. No one? Right.

Even if you are the most charismatic, confident, good-looking person out there, you may still feel a little uncertainty in your mind. Is masturbating the new pre-date activity to help alleviate those nerves? Most of us have seen that scene from There’s Something About Mary.

All joking aside, is this a viable option to cure a case of the nervies?

Can a pre-game O help keep your mind off of sex on your date? I am highly doubtful. If you are concerned with thinking about sex the entire time on your date, I don’t think masturbation will help keep you out of the mental sheets. If you are with your date and things are progressing nicely, you are attracted to them, you probably are going to think about sex. AND THAT IS OK! We are sexual beings. Your date isn’t going to be able to read your mind and as long and you don’t whip off the table cloth and take them right there on the table, you’ll be fine.

Masturbation and orgasm have no bearing on the level of our sex drive. It’s not a situation of “if you use it, you lose it.” When we orgasm, our bodies relax and release tension in our muscles. You get an overall feeling of well being and calm. It is a completely natural activity. But also keep in mind, a simple orgasm won’t quell our sex drive completely. Just think of an orgasm as a quick, free, fun release that can help put you in a better mindset; pre-gaming. And I am not just speaking to the men. Ladies, you too can benefit from the natural, refreshing feeling from an orgasm.

Moreover, what can we take home from this? Can an orgasm help take sex off the brain? Nah. Can an orgasm help alleviate some nervousness or stress? Absolutely an orgasm can help. So when you’re getting ready for your date, picking out your perfect outfit, and doing your hair just so, take some time for you and tap in to your built-in stress reliever. An orgasm a day can keep the nervies away, and when it comes to sex, everything is OK here.