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Talk Dirty To Me: The Art Of Auditory Seduction

1 Jul

DirtyTalkI really like the saying ‘use your words!’ especially when it comes to sex. Talking dirty, sexy, naughty, nasty, or whatever you want to call it, can be an exciting way to bring your sex play to the next level. You can apply dirty talk before or during your erotic encounter. A few sexy lines whispered to your partner of things to come while you’re out and about will definitely have them racing to get you home. And a few naughty phrases moaned during the act can really make things hot. Hearing positive feedback from your partner can also be a great confidence builder, and the great thing about talking dirty is that there is no wrong way to do it!

It you’re starting from nothing, dip your toes into the dirty talk pool with some simple moans and groans. Give a sigh or have a catch in your breath. Starting to become vocal in the act will make you more comfortable when it comes time to say it with words.

If you’re feeling shy or not sure what to say, just stick to basic phrases. Keep it simple sexy.

“You’re so sexy”

“I love it when you _____ my _____”

“Lick me here”

“That feels so good”

“Touch me in my favorite spot”

“I’m going to _____ your_____”

These simple phrases and more sound super erotic when said into your partner’s ear. Just give a verbal play by play of what is happening. Tell your partner what you’re about to do to them. That will also help keep you present, and your mind on task. Everyone loves compliments, especially in the bedroom!

If you’re looking to up the ante and get down to business, try out these lines.

“Let’s see how many times I can make you come”

“You’re so wet and taste delicious”

“I love the feeling of you in my mouth”

“I’m coming”

“Come on my face”

“You can put in anywhere”

As your confidence builds, you can work in more naughty phrases and words into your repertoire. If you and your partner are comfortable, try some vulgarity! Get nasty with it. Also realize that what goes on in the bedroom does not necessarily translate into real life. For example, your partner might like it when you call them a whore in while in the act, but they may not like being called a whore in public. Talking dirty is something for fun and should never be used maliciously against your partner.

Do you feel like you’re ready to give dirty talking a try? Just remember to be comfortable and yourself. Start off simply by saying what is happening or on your mind, then you can build the heat from there. Don’t worry if you misspeak or think you say the wrong thing, just laugh it off. Sex is supposed to be fun! And remember, when it comes to talking dirty in the bedroom, everything is OK here.

So You Want To Shave Your Pubic Hair?

19 Jun

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I often get questions like ‘Should I shave my pubes off?’ or ‘Is bald better?’ And the answer is simple, whatever is right for you! For those of you who want to keep it natural, keep it going, or rather, growing. But, if shaving is the choice for you, don’t just go willy-nilly with sharp objects around such a sensitive region. So whether you’re a shaving novice or an old pro, please consider the following information.

Pre-Trim

If you’re starting from full growth, take the time beforehand to cut your pubic hair short with scissors. This will help reduce the chance of you clogging a razor with excess hair. Remember, this is a pre-trim, you don’t need to get everything and be wary of what is hair and what is skin.

Lube It Up

Never EVER shave without some form of lubrication. At bare minimum use water, but I highly recommend shaving cream. Look for one that is specially formulated for sensitive areas or for your pubic region.

Go With The Flow

Shave with the growth of your hair, especially if this is your first time shaving. If your skin isn’t used to being shaved, going against the grain can cause ingrown hairs. Take your time, this isn’t a race. Nothing is worse than hurrying through a shave and getting a nick on your sensitive parts. Stretch the skin of difficult or hard to reach areas. A mirror can make a great shaving partner.

Exfoliation

After you’re done shaving, lightly exfoliate the area. This will help remove any dead skin cells or anything else that may block your pores and cause ingrown hairs. Ladies, be sure to not get any soap inside of your vagina. Rinse well and then pat dry. You can choose to apply a light moisturizer at this point. I recommend one that is dye and fragrance free.

Fast Tips

  • Pre-trim
  • Use a sharp razor
  • Always use lubrication
  • Take your time
  • Don’t over shave
  • Go with the grain
  • Use a mirror
  • No soap in the vagina
  • Rinse well
  • Moisturize

So whether shaving is an exciting change or part of your personal routine, be safe! And remember, when it comes to shaving and sex, everything is OK here.

Backdoor Basics: Beginning Butt Pleasure

3 Jun

For some, the prospect of anal sex is very taboo. But for those who want to break through the stigma and revel in the pleasure, anal play can be super hot. Both men and woman can enjoy in anal pleasure. Yes, you too men. *(Just because you like anal play, it doesn’t make you gay. How you enjoy pleasure does not define your sexual orientation.)  The anus is a hot bed of nerve endings that result in an often overlooked erogenous zone.  So if you’re still with me, and want some must know butt basics, read on fellow sexual explorer.

Anytime I ask someone about anal play and they tell me they would never do it, the number one reason is because “that is where poop comes out of.” Yes, you’re not wrong, but in a healthy person, the rectum is merely temporary storage of feces. There shouldn’t be any remnants left over. If you’re still concerned, you are welcome to use an enema.

As with any new sexual activity, you have to be in the right mindset. Nervousness and apprehension are common. Take some time to relax your mind and body with some deep breaths. Check in with your anus. Are you clenching? Make a conscious effort to relax and really get in touch with your body.

GRAB THE LUBE! Unlike the vagina, the anus does not naturally lubricate. Lube makes everything more comfortable and can help avoid injury. That being said, do not use numbing lubricants. It sounds like that would be the way to go, but unfortunately it can end in disaster. Because you cannot discern pain, you can get hurt (think rectal tearing and bleeding. Not fun or sexy). Pain is your body’s way of letting you know to slow down. If you’re doing it right, it shouldn’t hurt. Try a silicone lube for anal play or a specially formulated lubricant for back door pleasure like Wet Lubricant’s Uranus. Also, if you are going from anal to vaginal sex, make sure you change the condom!

Anal play isn’t something you just jump into. Make sure you take plenty of time for foreplay and to get aroused. And don’t feel like you need to lead with penis first. Start small. Use a finger or a small toy (base required). Experiment with different pressures and strokes and see what is right for you and your partner. A helpful hint which seems counter-intuitive is to bear down. The pushing helps relax your muscles and can help with insertion. Slowly work your way up from there so you can accommodate a penis or a larger toy. You anus is very dynamic. With adequate stimulation, relaxation, and patience, you can fit just about anything in there.

Almost as important as lubrication is communication. This is key. Check in throughout the experience with your partner. This activity can be very invasive to the receiver, so positive reinforcement and encouragement are appreciated. As the receiver, you are always in control. You get to decide how fast or slow the play goes. Be sure to speak up if the stimulation is getting too painful. There are no awards to those who muscle through painful anal.

Anal sex isn’t for everyone. If you don’t like it, you never have to do it again. But if you do like it, more power to you! So if butt play sounds like something you’d be into, grab some lube and have at it! Check back later for my helpful tips to exploring prostate play and remember, when it comes to sex, everything is OK here.