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The More The Merrier: The Ménage a Trois

19 Nov

Threesome

Having a threesome is a common request among many males, but many women are interested in this activity too. The first thing when considering a threesome is consent. You should never try to force/coerce/bribe/guilt your partner into having a threesome. This is where honesty and communication come in. Make sure that this is something your partner wants to do and if you’ve got consent all around, you’re golden.

Now your next question may be ‘where can I find someone to do this with?’ There are plenty of options you can explore to find a third. Consider a close friend who both and your partner know! The benefit is that you already have a pre-existing relationship. If looking in your friend pool isn’t an option, try some personal sites. Make sure you exercise caution when trying to find someone online. I’d suggest talking to them and agreeing to meet before you ask them to join you in the bedroom. A club is a great place to meet someone too. This is something that you can do with your partner and find someone you both mutually find appealing. And one of the best locations to find someone to add to your play party is at an adult vacation club. Many open-minded couples will be in attendance and you should be able to find some prospects there, if not some great friends.

So now have consent and a third, what is the next step? Now is the time to discuss the rules. This is a very important step in negotiating a threesome. The conversation should include what behavior is ok and what is not. For instance, is on the mouth kissing ok with your third? Is that something that is going to upset your partner. Discuss different acts and ‘what if’ scenarios and get agreement all around before embarking on your sexual adventure.

So now your threesome checklist is complete; consent, a third, and the rules! Now the play can commence! There are many different configurations you can be in when having a threesome, but breaking the ice can be the toughest. I think one of the easiest ways to break the ice is with a triple kiss. It is something light and can let you gauge each partners willingness and from there, you can ease up or go in for more. And all of this advice can go for all sorts of configurations whether it is FMF, MFM, MMM, FFF, foursome, or moresome.

Don’t be afraid to try different things; you won’t be a pro at first. Your body is a sexual playground, so never leave your hands or mouths idle. Have fun playing and when it comes to sex and threesomes, everything is OK here.

So You Want To Shave Your Pubic Hair?

19 Jun

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I often get questions like ‘Should I shave my pubes off?’ or ‘Is bald better?’ And the answer is simple, whatever is right for you! For those of you who want to keep it natural, keep it going, or rather, growing. But, if shaving is the choice for you, don’t just go willy-nilly with sharp objects around such a sensitive region. So whether you’re a shaving novice or an old pro, please consider the following information.

Pre-Trim

If you’re starting from full growth, take the time beforehand to cut your pubic hair short with scissors. This will help reduce the chance of you clogging a razor with excess hair. Remember, this is a pre-trim, you don’t need to get everything and be wary of what is hair and what is skin.

Lube It Up

Never EVER shave without some form of lubrication. At bare minimum use water, but I highly recommend shaving cream. Look for one that is specially formulated for sensitive areas or for your pubic region.

Go With The Flow

Shave with the growth of your hair, especially if this is your first time shaving. If your skin isn’t used to being shaved, going against the grain can cause ingrown hairs. Take your time, this isn’t a race. Nothing is worse than hurrying through a shave and getting a nick on your sensitive parts. Stretch the skin of difficult or hard to reach areas. A mirror can make a great shaving partner.

Exfoliation

After you’re done shaving, lightly exfoliate the area. This will help remove any dead skin cells or anything else that may block your pores and cause ingrown hairs. Ladies, be sure to not get any soap inside of your vagina. Rinse well and then pat dry. You can choose to apply a light moisturizer at this point. I recommend one that is dye and fragrance free.

Fast Tips

  • Pre-trim
  • Use a sharp razor
  • Always use lubrication
  • Take your time
  • Don’t over shave
  • Go with the grain
  • Use a mirror
  • No soap in the vagina
  • Rinse well
  • Moisturize

So whether shaving is an exciting change or part of your personal routine, be safe! And remember, when it comes to shaving and sex, everything is OK here.

What Not To Do: The Condom Challenge

23 Apr

CondomBreakSome of you may not have heard of the “Condom Challenge.” Don’t worry; you are not missing out on much. This is just another stunt for people to do to garner attention on the internet. I’m not even bothering to share a video because I don’t believe that it deserves spreading. Let me tell you how it goes. Someone unrolls a condom, puts the tip into one nostril, snorts it up their nose, and then pulls it from their mouth. Wow! That is some David Copperfield shit!

If you know of a friend who wants to do this “challenge” or has done it, politely ask them to extend one hand and promptly slap it while firmly saying, “NO!” This is stunt is terrible, dangerous, and a waste of a good condom.

This trick comes with a host of risks such as choking, vomiting, or even death. Obviously death is the worst case scenario, but there is still a chance. Good luck explaining why there is a condom stuck in your nasal cavity in the ER.

Here is my “Condom Challenge” – I challenge you to use a condom to have safer sex. To learn more about the condom and how to use it effectively, check out my post, Condom 101.

Ordinarily I say that everything is OK here, and it still is, except for the Condom Challenge. That isn’t OK.

True or False? Test Your Sexual Intellegence

24 Dec

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How is your sexual IQ? Let’s play a little game. Decide which of the following statements are true or false. Answers will be revealed below.

For women, urinating after sex is an old wives tale. It doesn’t provide any benefit.

TRUE or FALSE

You can break a penis.

TRUE or FALSE

You can get pregnant while on your period.

TRUE or FALSE

Erectile issues only affect old men.

TRUE or FALSE

You can reuse condoms.

TRUE or False

Let’s see how you scored!

For women, urinating after sex is an old wives tale. It doesn’t provide any benefit.

FALSE

When you have sex, all of the thrusting can push bacteria into your urethra. Left there, it can lead to a UTI, or urinary tract infection. Urination after intercourse can help flush out the bad bacteria and keep your lady parts happy.

You can break a penis.

TRUE

Yes, sorry men. A penile fracture is a serious emergency. Now you may be thinking that there is no bone in a human penis, but you can break the tunica albuginea that surround the corpora cavernosa, the spongy erectile tissue that is responsible for making your penis hard. Essentially it is like the worst bruise you can possibly imagine (Google images, you’ll see). This can be caused by blunt force, such as you slipping out of your partner and then missing the hole on your return thrust. Please exercise caution when having vigorous thrusting sex! And if this does happen to you, please seek immediate medical attention.

You can get pregnant while on your period.

TRUE

On average, a menstrual cycle is 28 days. But as you may know with averages, they don’t always apply to everyone. You usually ovulate two weeks after your period, but for women with a shorter cycle, you may ovulate right after you end your period. You cycle can change and fluctuate and you may have a 28 day cycle one month and then a 32 day cycle the next. Sperm can live as long as a week so that can leave plenty of overlap time for a meeting of sperm and egg.

Erectile issues only affect old men.

FALSE

Men of any age can experience a wide range of erectile issues such as premature ejaculation or difficulty maintaining an erection. These issues can be caused by a variety of conditions such as being overweight, medical issues, medication, alcohol, anxiety, or anything of the sort. These can be easily helped by consulting your health care professional.

You can reuse condoms

FALSE

No way! Even if you take it out of the wrapper and start rolling it on the erection and stop because it isn’t the right side up. Technically, there could be sperm in the pre-ejaculate and if you turn the condom “right side up” you could be inserting them into your partner. Male condoms are readily available at health clinics and they are sold in almost every grocery/drug store, so just opt for a box or handful.

How did you score? There are no dumb questions when it comes to sex, so keep asking! With accurate information you can make the best decisions about your sexual health and life. And when it comes to sex, everything is OK here. Be sure to stop by my new website too! SexologistMegan.com