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A Sexologist’s Take on Duck Dynasty’s Phil Robertson and His Recent Remarks in GQ Magazine

19 Dec

MLBPlayersDuckDynastyEarlier this morning I shared a post, not unlike many other people on Facebook, about Duck Dynasty’s Phil Robertson and his anti-gay remarks in the upcoming January 2014 issue of GQ Magazine. What followed can only be described as a fiery battle of strong opinions. For those who may not aware of what recently transpired, here is a quick recap of his comments.

“It seems like, to me, a vagina—as a man—would be more desirable than a man’s anus. That’s just me. I’m just thinking: There’s more there! She’s got more to offer. I mean, come on, dudes! You know what I’m saying? But hey, sin: It’s not logical, my man. It’s just not logical.”

And then later in the article-

“Start with homosexual behavior and just morph out from there. Bestiality, sleeping around with this woman and that woman and that woman and those men,” he says. Then he paraphrases Corinthians: “Don’t be deceived. Neither the adulterers, the idolaters, the male prostitutes, the homosexual offenders, the greedy, the drunkards, the slanderers, the swindlers—they won’t inherit the kingdom of God. Don’t deceive yourself. It’s not right.”

When I first read the article, I simply thought how disappointing. How disappointing that there are still these views and opinions in the world and how disappointing that they are strongly defended and perpetuated by so many. Robertson’s understanding of homosexual lifestyle is completely lacking. He is a product of his environment and probably has no other experience with sexualities other than his own. Homosexuality is more than just sex. While sex can be a pleasurable supplement to someone’s sexuality, it is also important to note that emotion and attraction just a few of the many other aspects that make up someone’s sexuality. Also, homosexuality is not ‘the gateway drug’ to bestiality or multiple partners.

We live in a heteronormative society and when situations like this arise, I think it is important for all of us to reevaluate what we think we know about sexuality. Stereotypes and misinformation only suppress the LGBT community and we as a society cannot think to move forward if we do not address them. I’m not saying that it wasn’t within Robertson’s rights to say what he did, but it should be no surprise to anyone why A&E has taken action against him. We live in a different time now and it is one that is evolving to be inclusive, accepting, and informed.

Single Women And The Absence Of Contraceptives

21 Feb

Even in today’s society, with all of its medical and scientific advancements, many women still fail to use contraception. The use of contraception can help reduce the risk of STD/STIs and prevent many unwanted pregnancies, yet it falls by the wayside for many women. There are many factors that go into a woman’s decision on why she chooses not to use a form of contraception.

Many women’s religious beliefs forbid the use of contraception. They are told that sexual intercourse is only for the production of children, therefore they do not need to use methods against childbirth. They are however permitted to use the “rhythm method” or cycle beads. These forms rely on counting days or beads to determine fertile days. These methods are highly unreliable because women’s cycles change and are not the same amount of days each month.

There can also be societal factors that would make them uncomfortable talking, let alone, seeking out, contraception. Some women can be embarrassed when it comes to talking about sex and then there is also the fear of rejection from their partner. Many men are guilty of trying to talk their way out of wearing a condom with excuses like “if you loved me you would let me without one”, “I just don’t want anything between us”, and “I’ll pull out.’

There is also the notion that many women do not know the wide breadth of contraception options there are out there. For many, the only type of sex education they have received has been abstinence only sex education which only mentions abstaining from sex to avoid pregnancy. They also may be in an area where they cannot access contraception.

Also, some women, and men, operate under the “superman complex” and don’t feel the need to take steps to protect themselves against STD/STI’s and pregnancy because “it can’t happen to them.”

Respect your sexuality and sexual health. Take some time out to evaluate what works for you. Get educated, ask questions, and find out which method fits your lifestyle the best. Have fun, be safe, and when it comes to sex, everything is OK here.