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Talk Dirty To Me: The Art Of Auditory Seduction

1 Jul

DirtyTalkI really like the saying ‘use your words!’ especially when it comes to sex. Talking dirty, sexy, naughty, nasty, or whatever you want to call it, can be an exciting way to bring your sex play to the next level. You can apply dirty talk before or during your erotic encounter. A few sexy lines whispered to your partner of things to come while you’re out and about will definitely have them racing to get you home. And a few naughty phrases moaned during the act can really make things hot. Hearing positive feedback from your partner can also be a great confidence builder, and the great thing about talking dirty is that there is no wrong way to do it!

It you’re starting from nothing, dip your toes into the dirty talk pool with some simple moans and groans. Give a sigh or have a catch in your breath. Starting to become vocal in the act will make you more comfortable when it comes time to say it with words.

If you’re feeling shy or not sure what to say, just stick to basic phrases. Keep it simple sexy.

“You’re so sexy”

“I love it when you _____ my _____”

“Lick me here”

“That feels so good”

“Touch me in my favorite spot”

“I’m going to _____ your_____”

These simple phrases and more sound super erotic when said into your partner’s ear. Just give a verbal play by play of what is happening. Tell your partner what you’re about to do to them. That will also help keep you present, and your mind on task. Everyone loves compliments, especially in the bedroom!

If you’re looking to up the ante and get down to business, try out these lines.

“Let’s see how many times I can make you come”

“You’re so wet and taste delicious”

“I love the feeling of you in my mouth”

“I’m coming”

“Come on my face”

“You can put in anywhere”

As your confidence builds, you can work in more naughty phrases and words into your repertoire. If you and your partner are comfortable, try some vulgarity! Get nasty with it. Also realize that what goes on in the bedroom does not necessarily translate into real life. For example, your partner might like it when you call them a whore in while in the act, but they may not like being called a whore in public. Talking dirty is something for fun and should never be used maliciously against your partner.

Do you feel like you’re ready to give dirty talking a try? Just remember to be comfortable and yourself. Start off simply by saying what is happening or on your mind, then you can build the heat from there. Don’t worry if you misspeak or think you say the wrong thing, just laugh it off. Sex is supposed to be fun! And remember, when it comes to talking dirty in the bedroom, everything is OK here.

Self Love: Breaking Through The Taboo Of Masturbation

31 Aug

With the threat of hairy palms, going blind, wasting all of your semen, your clitoris going numb, becoming infertile and all other things that will cause bodily harm, it’s no wonder that many people today are still hesitant to masturbate. There is often much guilt that comes with self-loving from previous misconceptions or myths we learned growing up. If you haven’t heard it before, please let me be the one to tell you that masturbation is completely normal and OK! I’m giving you permission to explore your body and learn where and how you like to be touched.

Still not convinced? Self-pleasuring is a safe sexual activity to engage in that has no risk of pregnancy or STD/STI transmission. Masturbation is a fantastic way of relieving stress and sexual tension. Having trouble sleeping at night? Try masturbating before you fall asleep. With the release of the feel-good endorphins, you will be on your way to a lovely afterglow sleep in no time.

There is no “right” or “wrong” way to do it either. Whatever works for you is awesome! Many people enjoy rubbing their genitals with their hands, against sheets, with pillows, or with sex toys. Pay attention to your body too. Some signs for sexual arousal are rapid breathing, increased heart rate, vaginal lubrication, and the appearance of pre-cum. You aren’t limited in touching your genitals either. Explore your entire body and see what feels nice. Try adding a lubricant of your choice to help facilitate a more sensuous time.

Set the mood. Create a sensual haven for yourself. Imagine you are creating a date for one. Turn on some music you like, lower the lights, and turn off that cell phone! Make sure that you are relaxed and in a comfortable position free of distractions. You aren’t limited to the bedroom either. Many people find self-loving especially fun in the bathroom. Take a long hot shower or draw yourself a nice bath.

Masturbation is also great for when you have sex with a partner. You can show your partner how and where you like to be touched. For men, it is beneficial because they can learn to recognize the “point of no return” with their orgasms. This can also help with premature ejaculation. To really add a new level of connection with your partner, try engaging in mutual masturbation. This can be a very powerful and revealing activity because you are giving your partner a window into your private world.

Although I said earlier that there is no right or wrong way to masturbate, I wanted to give a few tips on things to avoid. Men, do not put your penis in vacuum hoses or anything similar. The force of the vacuum could result in injury or an embarrassing trip to the emergency room. There are plenty of sex toys that offer a vacuum feel that are penis friendly. Ladies, please do not put any foods into your vagina. There is a delicate pH balance in there and the addition of substances, especially those containing sugars, can upset your internal environment and lead to yeast infections. Again, there are plenty of sex toys for you to use and explore with. If you are in a bind and MUST use food like a banana, please use it with a condom.

For more information on loving yourself I recommend these two awesome books

Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving – Betty Dodsom

Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide to Masturbation – Jamye Waxman

I wanted to provide you the links but WordPress is being wonky right now. Just Google them!

Whether you paddle the pink canoe or flog the log, polish the pearl or rub one out, or simply get off, masturbation is a perfectly natural and safe sex act that you can enjoy at all stages of your life. Keep up the self-love and when it comes to sex, everything is OK here.